My position is that we’re not just lookie-loos enjoying the spectacle of someone else’s misfortune. I’m not naïve enough to discount that this behavior is probably a part of some human’s nature; I’m just saying it’s also an important learning behavior as well. Another aspect of the human’s being is the fact that we’re able to learn from watching, listening as others go through an experience. We don’t have to have that first-hand, personal encounter in order to determine “good for us” or “bad for us”; pull this into my life or avoid.
The sight of something going awry immediately connects us with a sense of place-holding: I’m here. That’s happening there. A part of me is also there just by my thinking about it. In my consideration of what I’ve become aware of, an emotion is engaged. I’ve just had a vicarious experience.
Thoughts and emotions act as a barometer of our state of being. And, while they reflect who we are back to ourselves, they’re only meant to give us our baseline on an issue (a starting point). They are not responsible, alone, for our behavior. There is something unique about the human being in our ability to…pause. We have a conscious choice, rather than just instinct (i.e., The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results).
So, what’s your first thought when you see a fellow motorist acting badly?Are you able to self-reflect on what you just thought and encourage yourself to make any necessary changes so that you don’t act on a knee-jerk reaction to do harm? When you see a motorist in distress? What are you thinking, feeling when you pass a scene replete with police cruisers, a fire truck and ambulance? Do you avoid any conscious thought, which is a form of self-neglect? Do you avoid the inner mirror we are all born with?
We’re having experiences all the time, and we’re having thoughts and emotions about those experiences. Tuning into ourselves is like pulling up our own GPS that tells us where we are in our personal growth process. However, some of us are so out of touch with ourselves that we unconsciously depend on what’s happening outside of our own persons to experience learning – being alive. Turn within. Listen. The truth of you is there to guide, instruct and keep you safe.